Finding your ''Mr Right''

Deeply rooted in the heart of every woman is the desire to be loved, courted and wed by the man of her dreams. Every woman dreams of that day when she will put on her wedding dress, stroll down the aisle with ‘’Mr Right'’’, stand radiantly before that envious crowd of women, say ‘’I do'’’ and hear him say the same words. Let’s all face it, every woman needs a loving husband. One who will make her feel complete. A man of her own. Unfortunately, this is never realized by an increasing number of women. They just can’t seem to find a man who is interested in more than looks or sex. You see, when it comes to getting men to ‘’pop’’' the question, a woman has got to understand what makes men tick. She’s got to know and stick to the rules. Men do not like to be fussed, rushed or dragged into commitment in a relationship. I have outlined some principles below on how to find your ''Mr right'' and avoid unnecessary hurt and heartbreak.

1. First love yourself: If you can’t appreciate yourself, no one will appreciate you. Lack of love for yourself makes you gloomy and unapproachable. Understand that you are unique, special and priceless. Don’t be willing to settle for a man who doesn’t appreciate your value.

2. Prepare yourself: If most women were asked what personality traits or qualities they expect their future husband to have, the list will include: a man with a good sense of dressing, has clean shave, friendly etc. The list would go on and on. If you are entitled to this much from him, then you will agree with me when I say he also deserves no less. To whom much is given, much is expected. Whatever you expect in him, try to exhibit it.

3. Avoid staring at men: Staring at men sends only one message; ‘’you are interested’’'. You must not let him know you are interested in him or he will expect a ‘’yes’’ from you the minute he mentions ‘’date'’’ or ‘’sex'’’. You don’t give him a ‘’yes'’’ impression and then say ’’ 'no’'’ when he asks for those things. He will think you are a big joke. Keep him guessing. When he doesn’t get a ‘’yes'’’ too early or a ‘’no'’’, he finds the chase more exciting and unpredictable. Let the men do the staring.

4. Let him make the first move: Let him take the initiative. If he is really interested in you, he will. When you make the first move, you will look desperate. Guys like to be in control in a relationship. To be the hunter, not the hunted. Give him the chance. Let him work to get you. That way, if he succeeds, he will truly value you. The bottom line is this; make sure you don’t make yourself an easy catch. Play hard to get (not too hard) and chances are you will get ‘got’ by a man who truly loves you.

5. End dates first: On your dates, don’t be anxious about what to say. Let him take the lead. It’s his job to bring up conversations. So, relax and enjoy your date. Don’t be unnecessarily chatty but be interesting at the same time. Be yourself and be fun to be with. After a few hours, end the date. Do this as nicely and politely as possible. Let him know you have really enjoyed yourself. This will do your relationship a world of good on the long term.

In the process of following these ideas in finding your ‘’Mr Right’’, don’t be all tensed up and anxious because you will get the best result when you let it flow naturally...Good luck